Every head is a world: on different kinds of listening
Author: Sarah James Willcox
Published on March 28, 2019
In much of the writing around change, transformation and project management, ‘deep’ listening and ‘active’ listening are cited as being fundamental to successful change and transition.
The difficulty is that it’s more complex than it would first seem. In the words of a Cuban proverb: “Listening looks easy, but it’s not simple. Every head is a world”. Who is doing the listening? Why are you listening? Is listening enough? What do you do after the listening?
Yes, listening is the most important thing but, as with anything else, understanding why you’re doing it is essential if you’re to make the most of what you hear. And knowing this will help you determine who needs to be heard, by whom, and how you’ll set the conditions for that to happen.
The following list is by no means exhaustive but at different times, these considerations could be helpful.
- Throughout my career I’ve had the luck to work with a number of people who are extremely good at listening for what others are saying. There’s no doubt that leaders, particularly, need to ‘ring with the voices of the people’, to quote Woodrow Wilson (Leaders of Men, June 17, 1890). But there are times when we can’t just rely on those who are ‘good listeners’ to facilitate change and help articulate a vision for the future. It is often the case that, particularly in times of conflict or stress, the role of a change manager is to create an environment where team members are able to listen to each other. I find it interesting that (according to the Oxford English Dictionary) the word ‘conversation’ has its origins in the Middle English sense of ‘living among, familiarity, intimacy’. It makes sense that good listening should make an essential contribution to the effective development of ideas.
- In a reversal of this point, however, sometimes it also pays to listen to the loudest voice. I’ve been in a number of situations where the loudest voice gets overlooked or isn’t taken seriously because ‘she’s always complaining’ or ‘he’s got a bee in his bonnet about that issue’. Perhaps it’s worth reflecting on why that point is being made so loudly or so frequently. It may be that the way something is being expressed is not artful, or that frustration is getting in the way of a clear argument, but perhaps it’s worth trying to see what’s behind words and expressions. Is there actually something important here we need to attend to?
- That’s not to say that we should give the loudest voice all the air-time, of course, and it’s also important to listen out for what’s not being said. This is a fruitful thing to do and worthy of a longer post, I think, but there are a number of reasons why people might not be as forthcoming as we’d like. Occasionally, a team member is genuinely open-minded about the issues being discussed and so doesn’t say much, in which case they could contribute to facilitation. On the other hand, where people are reticent to offer a view, even when they feel strongly about something, it is helpful to find alternative means that allow for these voices to be heard. Although, it goes without saying that this will raise further questions about why these views can’t be shared and what it says about the culture in which they’re working. Lastly, there are the elephants that occupy a lot of organisational office space; listen out for what people are avoiding saying, and see if there are ways of asking questions that help articulate what everyone can see but no-one wants to acknowledge.
- It seems an obvious thing to say, but key to any transformation or change is listening keenly to those most affected by a proposal. It’s certainly the case that comment on a proposal might be sought from someone besides those immediately involved but where a major change affects a group of people, ensuring that this constituency is consulted in a meaningful way is essential. Ideas that arise from this have more credibility and the success of a measure is increased where a group can see their input in the resulting proposal.
- Listening for inconsistency is also important. If someone’s actions or behaviours run counter to what they are saying in meetings or briefings, progress will be slowed by confusion and loss of trust.
- Lastly, when working with a team, it’s often helpful to listen for a problem rather than a solution. Teams that work together a lot, particularly if they know each other well and are effective in what they do, can sometimes leap straight to proposing a solution and executing delivery without always looking closely at the causes of a symptom. Spending a little time unpicking what problem we’re trying to solve will ensure that the right amount of effort is used on the right task within the right time-frame.
As with many of the practices I’m thinking about at the moment, effective listening does take time. But it’s an investment that is worthwhile. As Nancy Kline, in Time to Think, writes: “The principle seems sound everywhere: to take the time to listen thoroughly is to increase the total time available to you. Interrupting takes twice as long.” To that, I would add that any kind of not listening makes everything take twice as long.
What is the most useful thing you’ve heard this week? Get in touch and tell me. I’m all ears.